"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us, what life is all about." Unknown
Have you ever seen a toddler with zero fucks to give? Don't they look happy? Don't they look free? The freedom and excitement of a world with very few rules and virtually no hang ups about what other people think. Just a blissful curiosity to explore the world around them. On top of that people think they're cute, so the actually get rewarded for all kinds of outlandish shit!
Then slowly but surely that carefree little explorer begins to get programmed by society. Suddenly its not o.k. to grab that strange lady's boob in the grocery store, to not play with, hug, or kiss their friend that doesn't look like them. The freedom to be themselves gets snuffed out and in that moment, the world becomes a little less.
I was thinking of some of the times in my own life when I didn't do some of the things I wanted to do. I chose to care about what other people thought, more than doing what would make me feel most alive. To play it safe and not put myself out there and just do me. One of the worst aspects of caring too much about what other people think of you is that it quiets our authentic self.
Our true self gets put on the back burner or shut down all together, because we crave the approval and acceptance of other people, who are just as weird and jacked up as us. All of a sudden who you are is no longer as important as what others perception of you is. Next thing you know you are going through an exhausting mental circle jerk. Is this cool? Is that cool? When you should be trying to figure out what gets your blood pumping and makes you excited about living the one life you get.
The thing is, we can't control our own thoughts a majority of the time, so what makes us think we can control what other people think. Treat that idea like a bag of bricks you've been carrying around...set that shit down.
What caring about what other people think of you really does is makes you bitter and resentful. You get a chip on your shoulder and you begin to formulate endless excuses about why you're not happy. As if that's anyone else's responsibility. News flash, nobody owes you shit. That may sound a little rough but the flip side of that little nugget is truly liberating. Outside of your children you don't OWE anybody shit. There is a great quote I love, "What other people think of you is none of your concern." That is so true!
When you stop caring about what people think of you, what really happens is you give yourself permission to have fun. When you set that bag of bricks down that little toddler starts to come alive again. You begin to give yourself the freedom to enjoy more of what life has to offer, and life has a lot to offer! Suddenly everything from pursuing outrageous dreams that everybody says is impossible to just wearing clothes that better express who you are, all become viable options in the here and now.
Look, the world has enough sheeple going along just to get along. Don't let that be you. You will never stand out in this world if you are always trying to fit in. There is a reason that everyone has a different set of fingerprints. Its because we were each meant to leave a unique mark on the world, and you just can't do that playing the role of someone else.
So my hope for you is that you allow your true self to shine. The world needs to see who you truly are. Although, if you are over the age of 4, please don't grab that strange lady's boob in the grocery store, but by all means play with that person who doesn't look like you!
Best of life, Kris